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All relationships are affected by pain and immobility. It is frustrating for both you and those around you that you are not your usual self. It can be helpful to recognise this and discuss it with the people it affects - good communication is very important, particularly when you are relying on others for help and support.
You may feel very lonely and isolated, you may have a profound sense of disappointment in your own body, and the delight in expecting a new baby may be overshadowed by the fear of not recovering after the birth.
Such feelings are very distressing, but they are also perfectly normal. It can help to talk your feelings through - either with your partner, friends and family, with caring health professionals or with other women who have had PGP. Doing this can help you not to feel so alone, and also let others understand what you are experiencing, so that they can give you the support you need. This may also be the first step in helping you to find help for your physical pain, as it can be quite overwhelming to have to cope with both at once, as well as a new baby and family life.
Your partner may be your greatest source of help and support or they may actually add to your burdens; it’s hard to predict! Either way, remember that they need support too. Don’t forget to give them a hug and remind them what they mean to you. If no one thinks to ask how they are doing, try to find someone approachable and ask him or her to enquire.